This is everyday, real-life stuff. I told my kids I may have to refer to this graphic sometimes!

  • This is everyday, real-life stuff. I told my kids I may have to refer to this graphic sometimes!

    They gave their input and it was interesting to listen to their perspectives (something I would encourage you to do with kids for anything that concerns them.)
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    >> One of the most important requests was that any reply was done in a kind way, without a hint of being condescending or manipulative.

    Sometimes, it can be tempting to control your kids to make your life easier

    But that’s not your job or theirs

    Not that kids can’t be helpful

    Their main purpose is to be themselves

    And our job as parents is to love them for who they are

    Not to mold and shape them into our idea of perfection

    Like it or not, whining is a means of expression

    There’s some sort of need

    It could be a physical need - food, water, and/or rest

    An emotional need - “I can’t hold it in anymore!” “I feel like I’m going to explode!” “I just need to cry!”
    .
    A need for your presence — “I need you to hear me and see me!” “I want you to play with me!”
    .
    A straightforward want — “I want to go to the playground!” “I want to go out with my friends!”
    .
    A need to be understood — “This is unfair!” I’m not saying to give into any demand if your kid is whining

    But do consider what the need is and if there’s a way to work out a win-win (“We can go to the playground after we drop off the groceries.”)
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    Offer choices when possible

    When boundaries need to be set, be fair and kind. For little kids, get on their level. Have empathy.

    If the limit needs to be firm, then say so in a calm, unwavering tone. (“No juice after dinner - you know that.”)
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    Of course, this is much easier when you feel grounded and balance

    So take a moment before responding if you need to

    And take nice slow breaths, relaxing your face and jaw

    If you feel like breaking down, chances are your kid might feel the same

    Don’t hesitate to hug an upset child

    Showing that you love them in this moment will help them feel secure

    They they don’t have to act “perfect” to be lovable

    That processing tough emotions is worthwhile and doesn’t make you any less

    Do the same for yourself, too

    I’m in this with you 💖 Dr. Dijamco34w
  • allworldshealthTold my kids I was posting on whining today 😉 and after a quizzical look from the little one, they approved!#integrativemedicine #integrativepediatrics #mindfulparenting #consciousparenting #mindfulness #consciousliving #holistic #holistichealth

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